I definitely have days where I’m mad at him, and on those days, I try to remind myself of shitty things that he did over the course of the relationship.
I think a big factor is that I have a ton of things that I want to tell him, but can’t. When we broke up, he told me that the relationship had been dead for months, and then he gave me this well-rehearsed speech about all the things I had done wrong. He asked if I had anything to say to him, and I was too stunned to respond.
So now I’m left with all of these things that I want to say to him, but it’s too late…and the lack of closure is making it difficult to fully move on.
I think that next time I’m mad (but not sad) I’m going to write a list of all the reasons why the breakup was a good thing, and I’ll review the list during my weaker moments.