So, I’m good at school–like really good at it–but I’ve never been one for relationships. In fact, I’m 21 with a master’s and halfway through my doctorate, and I have still never been on a date. I just don’t know how to put myself out there. This is all to say that there’s this guy in my class that funny and attractive, and I think I have a crush on him. I tried ignoring the feeling (my usual tactic) but he keeps popping back into my head.
I know I could just keep pushing it out of my mind, and, eventually, the feeling will pass like always. But I kinda want to try out that other part of life. He’s cute, funny, and extremely kind (was the only one in the group to go out of his way to look for my phone when I misplaced it last Friday). I just don’t know how to test the waters and see if he’s interested in me. I’ve flirted with guys before, but only ever to get a free drink at Starbucks or something like that. I have no idea how to do it with real people I’m actually attracted to. How do I approach that? And if he’s clearly not interested, how do I make it something I can walk away from?